Up and Coming Records: The Ladies Room

Welcome to The Ladies Room where women expose themselves in an effort to let it all go. Be advised, men are allowed to enter but for observational purposes only. The Ladies Room does not encourage male particpation. Due to our adult based content we ask that be at least 18 years old before entering.

Dear Katari,
I am a 31 year old educated black woman from Cali who has had a hard time finding a compatable mate. Most of the blackmen I meet are simply not willing to compromise, whether it be in the bedroom or the boardroom. Growing up in a structured home I find it difficult to play myself in an attempt to play these negros. What advice do have for me?
Sincerely,
Valencia in O/C

Valencia,
First of all keep hope alive and continue to be a blessing for the African American Community. Your ideal man awaits you but you may have to close your physical eyes to see him.

What's up Katari?
My homegirl said it was cool to write, I'm a 19 year old female from Victorville. Latley I've been stressed out the game over my dude. I'm six months pregnant and my man was recently arrested for murder. My mother has been in my ear saying " I told you so" but I try to explain to her that this is the father of my child. In a way I hate him for leaving me like this but then again I love him all the same. It hurts knowing we'll probaly never be together. How do I cope?
Yours truly,
Hopeless

Hopeless,
Now is the time to be strong for yourself and you unborn child. You are dealing with a great deal no doubt and a strong support system is absolutely necessary. Surround yourself with famil, friends and even an outside support group. Never be ashamed to cry. Remember, your life is no way over, what's over it the life you once knew. Your road to success will depend on how well you adapt to change.

Dear Katari,
I'm tired of fronting like size don't matter when I know damn well it does. Don't get me wrong I love my man but he's short in al the wrong places. Would a sista be wrong if I had a d**k on the side??
Desperate

Dear Desperate,
The only way you wouldn't be wrong is if it took batteries. If you lover is not hitting the spot this simply means that you require more than he's able to give. If love is apart of the equation it would be wise to keep the faith or remove yourself totally from that situation.

Hello Katari,
I heard about The Ladies Room and suddenly felt the need to adjust my make-up. I have a secret and since I can't just tell anybody, I've decided to tell everybody. I am a 45 year old caucasian woman from Texas and I've been dating a fairly younger blackman. Problem is I'm married and my lover has threaten to expose our relationship if I don't "break bread", as he calls it. My husband is an elected public official with a promising political career. My lover is a UPS driver with a wonderful cock, Should I pay my lover and save my marriage or let the chips fall where they may?
-Confused-

Dear Confused,
The depth of your situation has led you outside of your marriage vowels into the arms of a blackman in the hopes of filling a natural void. Where you were deeply satisfied in one area, you were totally disappointed in another and now forced to choose between pleasure and pain. "Breaking bread" with this young man will only complicate matters, for an inch will surely lead to a mile. I suggest a candid conversation with your husband, his political career may just be enough to hold the two of you together.



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Dear Katari,
I'm a plus size sista who would like to loose weight and keep it off. I've tried several diets whcih in some way or another always had negatvie after effects. I know the older I get the touger my problem becomes. Do you know of any safe ways to loose weight?
Sincerely,
Overweight Princess

Dear Overweight Princess,
I have heard of a natural way to loose weight and keep it off. I am not versed in its dynamics but I do have the website for you. www.naturalcures.com. Good Luck!

Dear Katari,
I have been trying to catch up with you forever, hopefully you answer my letter. Anyway. I'm a 22 year old female from Carson, CA in desperate need of some advice. A few months ago I was raped by an extended family member in the home I grew up in. I want badly to tell my mother but she appears to be so happy. Should I rain on her parade with my shame?
Please answer,
Miss Tee

Dear Miss Tee,
The fact that you addressed this issue to me pretty much answers your own question. You're literally dying to express yourself to your mother and you very well should. What happened to you is a crime which someone needs to answer too. Realize this has more to do with you than your mother. Even if she is happy, you could never be happy for her.

Hello Katari,
I'm a 30 year old white female from Florida. I'm writing to say Jameeka needs to be eliminated from Big Brother House. I'm so sick of her bulls**t, it's obvious she's no christian. How can anyone praise God one minute then lie, swear and mislead the next?
-Aimee-

Dear Aimee,
You are not alone in your way of thinking, during my trial my attorney proposed that same question to the jury regarding the district attorney. (LOL)

Dear Katari,
My name is Kelly and I'm 27 year old SWF from Newport Beach. Its sardonic I had to visit the Ladies Room to catch up to you. I called the number you gave me, you were unavailable. Dude why start what you're not willing to finish.

Dear Kelly,
I think you might have me confused with someone else, I would never turn my back on Newport Beach. As for a phone number I couldn't have but if you insist send a check or m/o and I'll try to refresh my memory

Dear Katari,
I am a 26 year old UCLA grad student majoring in psychology. This field of study is extremely tedious as it requires many hours of scientific examination. Seeing how The Ladies Room is becoming popular amongst caucasian women such as myself, what credentials do you hold that allows you to render advice?
-Enquiring Mind-

Dear Enquiring Mind,
I respect the spirit of your question and my answer would have to be life experiences. The pulling of oneself up from the bottom of the barrel all the while being tugged at and pulled back by those within that same barrel builds confidence and configuration. I would suggest that anyone able to make it over the sides does so scientifically. Although my way of gathering knowledge has been non traditional, if women such as yourself are turining in maybe they seek answers they were unable to find by traditional methods.

Dear Katari,
The past year for me has been tough, I've lost both of my children to the system because of my drug addiction. Over a period of time I went from a good paying job chilling in my own home to basically living on the streets. I've prostituted for drugs and places ot rest my head. As much as I want to change, I find myself searching for change (quarters, dimes, nickels) to support my habit. How do I find victory over my demons?
-Kay-

Dear Kay,
Until you reach your absolute rock bottom change is not an option. You have sacrificed almost everything yet you are still willing to sacrifice more. Are you one of those persons who have no bottom? If so you will die in your own addiction. There is no program, counselor or support group that can curb what you continue to feed. You have to really want it girl and then comes renewing of the mind. Ask and it shall be given, knock and the door shall be opened.

What up Katari?
Congrats on The Ladies Room. My thing is this. I wanna be famous too. Don't laugh man I'm thirsty. How can I be down?
-Jackie-

Dear Jackie,
Keep checking back with the website as employee opportunities are in the making.

Dear Katari,
I am a well known Hollywood Celebrity seeking your advice. For Obvious reasons I remain annonymous but I had to hear your take. I'm currently in a relationship with a guy I've known for about a year. Problem is I recently learned he's been trying to auction intimate pictures of the two of us. How does a secure woman protect herself in an unsecure world?
-Naked Truth-

Dear Naked Truth,
You can attempt a legal resolution but honestly thats just presecibed medication, what you're requesting is acure for the disease. In times of greed patience is a virtue and where celebrity status is icing on the cake, sometimes is even more fitting that you can't have your cake and eat it too.

Dear Katari,
I am a 18 year old high school student with a 4.0 G.P.A. Because I live in the hood I'm considered strange. Even though I come from a single parent home i have earned the opportunity to do great things. But sometimes I can't help but feel I'm leaving my people behind.
-Ms CPT-

Dear Ms Cpt,
Your words are extremely touching in that you are the beauty to the flipside of the beast. Does anything good come out of Compton? You betcha and as for leaving your people behind the mere consideration shows you'll do no such thing. You go girl! 1 Luv

Dear Katari,
I'm a 23 year old latina from Houston, Texas. I've visited the Ladies Room a few times and so decided to seek your advice. My man and I are sexually at odds, he doesn't seeom to understand how to light a fire, Where he prefers this fast paced grudge match, I'm leaning more towards sensual stimulation. Is there anyway to get us both on the same page?
Sincerely, Tina

Dear Tina,
Are you familiar with the phrase "get it how you live"? If so this phrase applies to sex as well. If your lover lives a fast paced agressive lifestyle this may reflect on his bedroom performance. Introduce him to more thought provoking activities and he'll soon start making love to your mind.

Dear Katari,
I'm in an abusive relationship with the father of my child and my daughter is at the age where she's starting to understand whats going on. I don't want to her to see her daddy as a bitch but I have been known to throw these thangs. Am I sending my daughter the wrong message?
-Lady Chunk'em-

Dear Lady Chunk'em,
Putting hands on your man in front of your child will not produce positive results. In fact, what you are promoting is abuse that your daughter will learn to administer in her own relationships. While this is the era of strong women, understand that your strength stems from intangible things.

Dear Katari,
2008 will me a much better year for me because I'm claiming positivity. I've been entering the ladies room from time to time and taking your advice. In some strange way you seem touched by an angel.
Sincerely, Kerry

Dear Kerry,
I appreciate the endearment and wish you the best this new year. 2008 will be what you make it, stay positive and sincere.

Hey Bay Bay,
Katari I need your advice. My homegirl keep stressing me about her baby daddy. She think I might be creeping with the nigga. I keep telling her I don't get down like that. How should I handle the situation?
-Ms. 2 Cute-

Dear Ms. 2 Cute,
You should go out of your way to make your homegirl feel secure. It matters little if you're not sleeping with her man if you're constantly leaving that impression.

Dear Katari,
I'm a 22 year old female who loves to give oral sex. No kidding, it literally turns me on to such a *@+!. As you might have imagined my sexual fetish has left me with a stained reputation. Is there a place in this world for me?
-Amanda-

Dear Amanda,
A stained reputation is the least of your worries if you're not taking the proper precautions to protect yourself. A refresher course in sexual etiquette maybe needed. In any event the world offers a place for us all.

Dear Katari,
I am a 30 year old asian woman looking to explore my options. Not that I have a thing for blackmen but I wouln't mind entertaining the possibility. Do you have any advice for meeting a successful brotha?
-Kim-

Dear Kim,
Up and Coming Records is all the advice you need.

Wuz up Katari,
Check for ur girl one time with some advice. I know you've been thru alot and I just wanna know how do you stay strong. I got issues right now and sinking fast.
-Missy-

Hey Missy,
The Key to being strong is to constantly build. That means adding something of substance to your garden daily. A little patience, faith, perserverence and before you know it your character will be a pillar to your surrounding friends.

Dear Katari,
I am a 50 year old African American woman who has been extremely impressed by your advice. My grand-daughter introduced me to The Ladies Room with words of gratitude for you. I never expected such sound advice from a gangster rap website. I an influenced to bring other mature adults to your column.
-Taylor Bates, PHD-

Dear Dr. Bates,
Thank you for your words of encouragement and a grand-daughter of influence. I humbly appreciate your visit to The Ladies Room and welcome all of your guest!